Good to be back

Mornin'

Sorry, I have been tending to other issues and have neglected my blogging. My life continues to improve, a far cry from many years ago. I just wanted to let those of you who feel hopeless know there is hope no matter what situation you find yourself. There are lessons in everything we experience and, if you continue searching for solutions for the issues that plague you and thwart your recovery, you shall discover them. You may have to move out of you comfort zone and try things that may be intimidating and scary. I guarantee that you will improve your relations with yourself and others if you listen to what the voice within tells you. I am here to tell you that the voice I speak of is never, ever wrong because it is innate and crafted by the loving hands of the Great Spirit. I don't typically talk about God stuff since many folks struggle with the issue. However, there are instances such as trying to explain this voice that I simply cannot avoid the issue. Some folks call it their conscience while others place more depth and meaning on the phenomenon. Regardless, when you tap into this resource within yourself and a relationship with the Great Spirit ensues, your life will take on a whole new meaning.

Peace

Another Day of Opportunity

Mornin'

I hope everybody is in good spirits this morning. I don't see why all of us shouldn't be. If you are restless, irritable, and generally discontent, I can assure you that, if you access the recesses of your mind, you can find something to be grateful for. Whether it is good health or having someone special in your life, there is something there. I hope that all of you find something for which to be grateful for today. If you cannot, be patient. Gratitude can sometimes be elusive and it may take practice to find become proficient at it. May you have all the opportunity to experience the fullness of life today. Have a great day.

Peace

Are your relationships healthy?

Mornin'

Well, this depends on how you define healthy. Do you consider wealth and prosperity the cornerstones of relationships? They are indeed important and certainly can accentuate relationships. How do you define these two components? People can be wealthy and prosperous in material things or they can be wealthy and prosperous in all things spiritual and emotional. Sometimes (and this is where most of us prefer to be) all three of these intersect at a point where they are balanced. This is typically not the case for most humans.What vantage point are you coming from?

It seems most humans are constantly trying to find balance in all areas of life. There are the haves and have nots. Some have blessings in some areas and while others have blessings in others. Healthy relationships seem to consist of several components. The ones on the top of the list are honesty, good listening skills, assertiveness, forgiveness, and commitment. In implementing all of these, the plethora of other relationship components are attainable.

It is nice to have the fancy cars, big houses, money, and many other toys to accentuate our lives with. What good are all of these if we are wandering aimlessly through life with a spiritual void? Sure, people can fill their schedules in such a way to avoid thinking about spiritual relationships with a higher power, wife, husband, and others. They can travel the world and buy anything their heart desires? What really does their heart desire?

In every case of discontent, there seems to be a spiritual malady. There is something lost or misplaced within the realm of the heart and soul that desperately needs attention in order for the person to regain or obtain balance, peace, and serenity. Many people may have never had spirituality to begin with and only in desperation seek something that they can reference to help them walk sanely through life. Mark my word, when you take some time to get quiet and alone and allow you heart and soul to speak to you, you will know whether or not the spiritual connection is present. Finally, I think what this all boils down to is where you focus is at and what is important to you. Remember, we are not taking anything with us when we die. Just a though.

Peace

Death and Dying

 

Mornin'
Inevitable? Yes. Easy to deal with? A resounding NO! Death and dying are perhaps the most misunderstood phenomenon known to man. I think, perhaps, that we struggle with our mortality because we simply do not want this life as we know it to end.

Sure, there are many folks who struggle with various illnesses that implant the thoughts of dying a premature life in their minds. But do these people really want to die or are they simply confused as to their purpose in this world?

Then there are those who die a senseless death in many other ways. We can understand how people die from drug or alcohol related illnesses; it seems like they meet their end because of the choices they make. There are countless others who died by the fickle powerof choice.

Then there are other deaths that we expect. This would mainly include old age and death from wars and various other means.

What I can't seem to wrap my mind around are the deaths occurring everyday from disease and other issues like starvation and abuse. When children pay the price it is particularly more difficult for me to understand. When children die a senseless death as a direct result of the sins of their parents or any other adult, this particularly troubles me.

I have recently been faced with deaths from both ends of the spectrum. I lost my nephew - age 25 - last week to a car accident in which the driver was drunk. My friend also lost her mother yesterday to basically old age and I have a cousin in his sixth year of stage 4 lung cancer, a cancer that should have killed him in the first six months. This is a broad spectrum of death and dying.

My take on this whole situation is probably not as unique as I sometimes think. I believe that God's plan is just as confusing to us and our plan and actions are to God. I am certain we will never understand God's will and I don't think He wants us to to worry ourselves with spending too much time chasing our tail. What I do think is that we should ask for knowledge of his will for us and the power to carry it out. Knowing what God's will is for our personal lives does not equate to know how He works in the grand scheme of things.We can certainly learn what his will is for ourselves but knowing his will for the rest of the world is simply unattainable. I believe we can always gain a better understanding of how the world operates but should not expect ourselves to 'arrive' at a definitive destination. Just sayin'.

Peace

Mucho snow...hopeful it's the last!

Okay, let's move from here...

To here already!

Mornin'

Well, I hope all is well with you. Whether you are looking outside at another snowstorm or basking in the sun, I hope all of you are doing well. I realize I always say my entries will be quick. My passion for blogging forces me to spend as much time as possible communicating to my audience. I hope you get as much out of reading Surfing the Pipelines of Life as I get out of making my entries.

This delay in Spring here in the mid-Atlantic region forces me to contemplate not only who is really in charge of our environment, but also my impatience dealing with the situations I find myself in on a daily basis.

There is a time for everything and progress might not be on my time table. Just when I think I can no longer wait for outcomes in situations, I somehow muster the strength to be patient even if it is for just another moment.

It is in those moments when I want to force a process that my homeostasis gets out of whack. I may intuitively know that what I am about to do will place me in such a pickle but I do it anyway. I believe living a wise, peaceful live entails drawing from these experiences and rethinking how I handle each situation as it comes along.

Mother Nature is also a powerful example of this philosophy. She rules the environment and we are powerless over what she does. She does, however, give us the strength and wisdom to cope with what she delivers. When we fight, we become unhappy and struggle. My advice to myself here in the snow and those in sunny, warm locations is to immerse yourself in the processes of life and gain wisdom from every experience. Things may not always go our way but plenty does go our way. You will be amazed how much goes your way when you accept the certainty that things will sometimes go other people's way.

Peace

Gratitude

Mornin'

This is so true and it seems that, when this philosophy becomes clouded or I lose site of it, I almost always struggle to maintain happiness and peace of mind. It is imperative that I always be able to think of things I can and should be grateful for. They include - but are limited to - my health, family, friends, the good mind my higher power has given me, my sense of humor, the ability to feel compassion and understanding toward others, and the ability to reason and know right from wrong. This is just the beginning of a huge list of things I can be grateful for. I usually tap into these choices and, as a result, I remain grateful and content most of the time. Try it, I think you will like it.

Peace

Parts of the Whole

Mornin' (good people)

I wanted to address this issue today in hopes of exposing the fallacy that many problems and challengers are just too hard or complex for us to handle. This does not seem to be the case when we break down the sometimes monstrous challenges into bite size, more manageable pieces. All issues or tasks in life can all be broken down into smaller, more manageable 'chunks' if you will. These chunks can be solved more easily and assembled together to create a finished product. It is easier to educate ourselves on the smaller components of a challenge because they typically are not as complex and baffling as the 'big picture'.

When you come face to face with a challenge or anything else you either choose or have to do, think of it as comprised of smaller, more manageable parts. Intimidation and fear will slip away so you can get down to the task at hand. You will certainly find you are more adept at solving and doing more things you had previously avoided.

Peace

A Touch of Spring Today

Mornin'

Depending on where you are at in the states or the world today, think Spring! In the northeastern section of the United States, we will be experiencing above average, springlike temperatures today; a moment to catch our breath from suffering a brutal winter. But does it end with exteriors. I think not.

I believe it is important to remember that we can always have our own Spring, or rebirth, within ourselves at any moment and on any given day. That moment when we can stop, breathe, and rejuvenate our minds and souls is necessary for any healthy lifestyle. It is in those times when I get frustrated or angry with self and others that I need this the most. I usually need it in times of indecision as well.

This strategy of taking time out for ourselves to rebirth our thoughts gives all of us stability; a better platform from which we can reason. I have lived at both ends of the spectrum and realize that living in the grey area is far better than living at one pole. Actually, I strive to live closer to the pole at which peace and serenity reside. To hover there is impossible so I think the best all or us can do is work diligently to get close.

If you take one thing away from my blog entry today, I hope it is this: Just as the spring brings forth new life and beginnings for flora and fauna, so can it do the same for us humans in at least two ways. It can happen literally or metaphorically. Although many creatures' brains are not evolved enough to reasons like us humans, they seem to be able to live a life less burdened with cares and concerns. On the flip side of the coin, we humans can use our ability to reason to not only detect when our thoughts and emotions go awry, but also devise schemes whereby we can change the variables and alleviate the consequences of these issues. The other animals in our world live so simply that they never stray too far from the beaten path.

We as humans tend to use our gifts of intelligence and all the other traits unique to our species to sometimes get us into difficult emotional spaces. Knowing that a) we will always stray from our balanced center at times and b) that we have the gift of reason and many other traits, we can always get back on track the have our rebirth of the mind and soul whenever we choose. Happy "Spring" in advance.

Peace

Contempt Prior to Investigation

Mornin'

I experienced something yesterday that I believe is quite common in society today. It was something so seemingly insignificant but profound nonetheless. I misplaced a pair of gloves and when I returned to the location at which I believed I had left them, they were gone. I automatically assumed one of the people at that location took the gloves. I had a few choice words with the group and went on my way. Later that day, I discovered the gloves in another location; the location at which I dropped them. I felt so ashamed and embarrassed by assuming that someone stole the gloves and giving the group an earful.

I behave in this fashion from time to time and am usually always wrong with my accusations. I may perform silently - in my mind - or physically in something I say or do. Regardless, it is not only wrong but unfair as well. I would not like anyone else to accuse me of something when I did not do what I am accused of. I think that is where the embarrassment and shame come into the picture.

Contempt prior to investigation does the most damage in my mind. I may assume someone or something is a certain way with certain motives just by the way they look or for a myriad of other reasons. It does not happen too often anymore but it happens. This not only blocks potential friends ans support for my journey, but this behavior also gives me a poor reputation.

I believe this type of behavior affects more people than we think and is the root of more interpersonal problems than any of us care to admit. My challenge to myself and to all of you is to be mindful of how we think. I know I need to trust that goodness is more prevalent than I may think at times. My mission is to be okay regardless or what happens around me. I am always the captain of my vessel and it is my responsibility to process any thoughts, regardless of toxicity, correctly so I can draw the most reasonable conclusions. This will allow me to live more peacefully among my fellow human beings.

The interesting things about this topic is that I really don't have to worry about what other say or do because when it is all said and done, I believe in Karma and that people who have malicious intent will receive negative consequences in return. I have seen it time and time again both in my life and the lives of people around me. My concern is my side of the street but that doesn't mean I will not regress at times. Those times are the moments in which I am jolted back to reality and reminded that I may have made progress on my journey but there is still plenty of work to do.

Peace

Treat jealousy and anger with happiness

Mornin'

Ever notice how the unhappy people - either in your circle of acquaintances or not (typically not) - who make it their job to change your mood from glad to sad or, better yet, attempt to anger you so their misery will enjoy your company? They are all over the place just waiting for you and I to add fuel to their fire. Their cancer needs you and others to flourish and devour everything in its path.

Stop! You do not have to feed the fire. Instead, be nice to these people and happy when you are around them. Do not flaunt your happiness with any particular agenda in mind. Just be happy because you are a happy individual. What other emotion are we suppose to feel when we take stock of all the blessings the Great Spirit has bestowed upon us?

At first, the miserable, angry individuals will resent you for being 'happy'. After they are exposed to you more often, their anger softens and they learn that being happy is okay. Some nuts are harder to crack than others and there are many whose anger is so deeply rooted that they may very well carry it to their grave. It may ever be the thing that kills them. Nonetheless, enjoy each day be especially happy towards those who seem to be the angriest.

Peace

Back on our feet

Mornin'

I turn my thoughts today towards the concept of picking ourselves up despite the hardships we may go through. Like all of you, I have certainly had plenty of hardships. The origin of our hardships is important but not crucial for what I am going to discuss right now.

Always remember that, no matter what, all of us can muster the courage to get up after a fall regardless of the severity. I am not talking specifically about a physical fall but they can be included in this conversation if you wish. My focus is mainly on the spiritual, emotional, and psychological falls we take during our journey through this thing we call life.

If you have not experienced the pain offered through these types of falls, it is certain that you will at some point(s) in your life. What I have found to be helpful regardless of the type of fall, is for us to never lose focus on our goal or our morals and values. In keeping these intact, we will invariably handle the situations we find ourselves in with maturity and fairness.

The most important gift we can deploy in any type of situation that knocks us down is the gift of spirituality. By having a relationship with a higher source and living by the principles inherent from regular contact with this source, we intuitively know how to handle any situations that used to baffle us. We no longer have to exact revenge towards those who hurt us in anyway. We learn to forgive and pity them. They are apparently not on the spiritual plateau we are on. We must never flaunt our spiritual understanding.

Let me make it clear that, when discussing all things spiritual, I am not siding with any particular religion or religious philosophy, doctrine, or dogma. I am, however, imparting on you the importance of connecting with something that can help you on your difficult journey through life. Trust me, I have tried living life with and without spiritual guidance and living with it has been far more rewarding.

If you fall often and have difficulty getting up, let me suggest that you try a different solution. My solution - and I think I have spoken about this before - is to allow the gentle voice within to guide me. Some call it conscience but that is only part of the bigger picture. Suffice to say, I did not have to look far and the voice within is never wrong when it guides me. I try not to 'figure it out' too much; I choose to listen and obey it's instructions. It is only when I do not heed its warnings and follow its suggestions do I fall more often and stay down longer. It is free and only require that I take fifteen minutes to a half hour to tune into it before I start my day. I love it and it is what I have been looking for in all the wrong places my entire life.

Peace

Good day for chillin' and catching up on projects around the house!

Mornin'

I'm not sure what the weather is like in your area. Here in Annapolis, MD, we had a nasty storm yesterday that consisted of snow, rain, and sleet. I am glad I do not have to drive in it today; do most of my work from home. I enjoy looking at the snow coming down and as it sits on the landscape. I must say I am not a big fan of shoveling it either. It's hard to believe that I used to shovel and play in the snow all day long. I had no other alternative for income so I had to obtained jobs any way I could. It seemed I had all the energy in the world back then. Watching the kids enjoy the snow is pretty nostalgic and nice to see. I think what I am trying to say is that life consists of many stages and I happen to be smack dab in the middle. I am certainly grateful for my experiences and those to come. I hope all of you can at least hold onto something from your past that brings warmth to your soul. If not, maybe you can create them today and pave the way to your future with them.

Peace

Snowing, Sleeting, and Raining!

 

Mornin'

I'm not sure what the weather is like in your area but the weather here in Maryland is awful. That's okay, it doesn't have to dampen my spirits. I do not have to go out in it today and got my grocery shopping done yesterday. Let's just say I heeded the weather forecaster's warning like the million other folks in the stores yesterday. I was ready for them too.

One thing that my spiritual journey has afforded me is how to properly deal with all kinds of interesting people. I, like all of you, have to face difficult and pleasant ones on a daily basis. The pleasant ones are much easier to interact with than the difficult, moody people. I have discovered that how I communicate with the difficult people I come into contact with on a daily basis reveals the advancements or regressions I have made along my spiritual path.

I have discovered that one of the key ingredients in communicating well with others is for me to stay away from being judgmental and never let my emotions get the best of me. It is also important for me to listen well and trust the communication process. Having these components and employing them has allowed my relationships to flourish. I hope they do the same for you. Good luck!

Peace

Skeletons in Your Closet

Mornin'

I would like to briefly discuss how I handle the skeletons in my closet. You know, things from the past that may be distasteful and unappealing. The first concept to remember is that not every body needs to know every nook and cranny about our past. This should be saved for maybe family and close friends. Sure, there will be certain events that others find out about that may cause you to worry about whether or not you will be rejected on account of those things. That is called judgement and be assured that their judgmental ways will be dealt with by their Higher Power when He/She sees fit.

This brings me to the second point I would like to make. Your past is your past. It is that simple. It does not define who you are today nor should you even worry about the judgements people make about it. You can't change it so there is no need to even dwell in it. The only results that dwelling on the mistakes of your past will give you is heartache and pain. Please live in today and use today as a conduit through which you construct your tomorrow.

Peace

Smooth Sailing!

Mornin'

I have had smooth sailing in my life lately. With a combination of spiritual energy and a lull in some activities, I have managed to put together a string of awesome days. I realize the tough ones will come again so I am enjoying what I have in the moment. I work hard to have peace and harmony in my life. I'll be damned if I allow someone or something to get in my head long enough to steal what I work so hard for.

Getting to this juncture in my life was not an easy task(s). I was a slow learner but the important thing now is that I did finally learn from all the events that unfolded in my life. I believe that is all we are supposed to do in our lives. I believe the rate at which we learn from the events in our lives is wholly up to us. We do have control of our own destiny. People have different amounts of baggage that they have to work with. Some is more confounding than others. Again, the important thing I had to learn was to put down the shovel and stop digging a deeper hole. When that occurred, I was then able to change direction in my life and move on to things that empowered me.

It is important to remember that, although nice to have, things and popularity are not essential to a walk along a spiritual path. The important thing on our journey called life is to treat ourselves and others with respect and utilize the gifts from the Great Spirit. In utilizing our gifts, all the bases to living live correctly will be touched. Helping others and being honest and less selfish are good attributes as well. There are a slew of things we need to do to live a happy, productive, and fulfilled life. I found out that when I follow the voice within (which is my higher power working with me) then I cannot help but live appropriately and successfully.

I challenge all of you today to flash your beautiful smiles at someone who seems down today. Offer a helping hand to someone in need. You can also do something for someone without letting them know who performed the gesture. The important thing to remember is that helping others is a way to get out of ourselves so we can manage our tendency towards selfishness. It is easy to get caught up in self and lose sight of some of the most rewarding experiences in our lives. When you experience the joy helping someone brings, you will see the addictive nature of your actions. The natural high the Great Spirit provides you is better than any other you will experience in you life. Try it, I think you will like it.

Peace

When do we draw the line?

Mornin'

At what point do we draw the line in any area of our lives? I am referring to the times wherein we have done enough damage to a person or situation. It may even involve ourselves. Pain is usually the motivator that steers us back on course after we have had enough of it.

But what about all the good we are involved in and projects we enjoy or simply have to get done? These are usually activities that make people feel good and improve their quality of life. Or do they? The possibility is always there for participation in the "good" activities in life can also make us miserable, depressed, stressed, neurotic, etc. This is the point at which we need to re-evaluate our individual situations and plot another course.

Overall, our life was given to us for us to enjoy in many ways. From relationships with others to acquisition of material possessions, life is here for the taking. Giving back by helping the less fortunate and contributing our set of skills to those who need them are both important in the grand scheme of life.

There comes a time, even when we are involved in activities that make us feel good and enjoy life that the rewards corral us into an obsessive mode wherein we find ourselves just doing too much. We spread ourselves too thin and life becomes laborious and not as exciting as it once was. This is the moment in which we should re-evaluate what are really the most important things in our lives and begin the process of weeding out all the unnecessary activities that make our live too full and stressful.

The dilemma of having too much on our plate may entail plenty of unfinished projects that sit because we are simply too busy starting new ones. Finish them before beginning any new ones. This action alone will take a lot of pressure off your daily life.

In short, try not to spread yourself too thin. Commit to only those things you must take care of or really enjoy doing the most. Having a full life is what most human beings strive for. Getting physically, emotionally, or psychologically ill over them is unnecessary.

Peace

Moments of Indecision

Mornin'

The are two ways we can go during moments of indecision. They are act and don't act and each decision brings with it its own set of consequences.

Let's take acting during moments of indecision. When we do not think challenges or situations through and act impulsively, we can either succeed or suffer what seems like failure. Things aren't always what they seem so we must be careful when always looking at our mishaps in a negative light.

First, when we decide on something impulsively and get less than desirable consequences, we should look at the whole situation as a learning experience instead of a failure. That way, we can avoid unnecessary negative self talk; energy that could be spent of managing other areas of our lives.

Finally, we can act impulsively and get the results we desire. This is oftentimes referred to as acting instinctively to certain situations. It is the Great Spirit's way of protecting us and usually the one's we love. Some refer to it as part of our self-preservation skills.

We can also refrain from acting in situations altogether and this too has mixed consequences. When we refrain from acting in situations, there can either be positive or negative results. By not acting, we could prevent a situation from escalating to dangerous levels or watch as a conflict builds and people or things suffer undesirable consequences.

Life seems to be a delicate balance of these two options. When we should or should not act in certain situations becomes an art, if you will, as we mature. This is a complex topic, one in which each person's unique wants and needs play an important role in which direction these choices take them. I have learned through my own experiences that I usually need to think things - though briefly sometimes - through before I act. I work diligently to avoid acting on impulse these days. It is one of the greatest challenges I have ever accepted but one in which I have also learned many valuable lessons. Well thought out decisions produce far better consequences than impulsive, selfish ones.

Peace

Strugglin' Through Pain

pain (pān)

noun: pain; plural noun: pains

1.

physical suffering or discomfort caused by illness or injury.

Mornin'

Inescapable, pain serves many purposes in our lives. The one's that come to mind this morning are pain as a motivator and pain as a warning sign. I believe emotional and spiritual pain are the biggest motivators in a human being's life. They serve to force individuals to act so as to either improve or worsen their spiritual or emotional condition. I find it interesting that we always have a choice in this matter. We certainly do not have any control over what other people do but we do have control how we react to those folks. What we do with a stimulus is crucial to a life of peace and happiness. It is truly up to us.

Now, regarding physical pain; this is something that asks us to stop and reconsider what we are doing as well. It can be a great motivator (i.e. when we work out and get sore, we know our muscles are on their way to increasing in size so this propels us into working out more) or a life saving feeling. When we are injured, our body sends a signal to our brain that we are distressed and in pain. The brain immediately returns the sensation of pain to the sight of the injury. This causes us to stop what we are doing in order to stop additional pain or to preserve life. It also allows us to step back and reassess what we are faced with. Is what we are engaged in really helping me or is it harming me each time I participate?

This discussion could go on ad nausea  so I jotted down a few ideas I had off the top of my head. Feel free to comment on this entry so I can learn more about this topic. One important thing concerning pain is that oftentimes the secret to as pain free a life as possible is simply paying attention in everything we do. Whether in a relationship or at work, much pain can be avoided by paying particular attention to the details in our lives. Never take anything or any person for granted. Just when you let your guard of vigilance down, more pain than is necessary will oftentimes enter your life. So, we cannot escape pain in our lives but can mitigate its effects.

Peace

Are we having fun yet?

Mornin'

Having fun, my friends, is essential to a life of excitement and content. I spent many years of my life caught in the web of depression, self-doubt, and many other negative, oppressive thoughts and feelings. It was not until I learned how to laugh regularly again did I begin to enjoy my life. I'm not talking about a chuckle or two here or there. I am talking about those gut laughs that make your stomach muscles hurt and eyes water. 

Whatever means you see fit to fulfill this mission should always be tempered with keeping others' feelings in mind. There are certain things that are off limits for joking. They include physically or emotionally challenged individual as well as folks who are in the position I was once in where they are far too sensitive to appreciate the jokes and who's emotions may spin wildly out of control due to this instability.

The rest is wide open. One important thing I needed to learn how to do was laugh at myself in different ways. As my self-esteem began to heal and I became more self-assured, it was a lot easier to laugh at my quirkiness and goofiness more often because I had a firmer foundation and better understanding of who I was. 

It is so freeing to be able to laugh spontaneously and not take myself so seriously all the time. I have found that my laughter and good cheer breeds more life into me and helps me relate to others more. My change in outlook on life has also attracted more people. Deep down, most people prefer to be around someone who is happy and fun. No one likes a deadbeat. I know this because I spent a long time miserable and depressed only to find out that I repelled more folks than I attracted. Driving people away from me due to my low opinion of self and anger only made me more lonely, depressed, and hopeless. I much prefer this side of the fence and continue to look for opportunities to laugh and enjoy my peers and family on a daily basis. Do you?

Peace

My Miniscule Problems

Mornin'

Sometimes I think I have a greater number of problems than the next person and it always seems that my problems are greater to overcome than theirs. Well, let me tell you: I have the honor and privilege to witness something extremely courageous in an acquaintance of mine and I am sure your problems will seem less harsh after you hear what he goes through on a daily basis. For a quick education, visit the Mayo Clinic website. This will give you a brief description of the disease.

Suffice to say, my friend suffers frequent bouts with excruciating pain the basically render him unable to function properly until the pain subsides. Headaches are nothing compared to the devastating sensations caused by having TN. Again, I learned that the problems I face on a daily basis are no where near as painful and debilitating as those suffered by others.This man is a hero to me and I often wonder what I can do to alleviate his suffering. The short answer is "not much". After brain surgery to alleviate the disease, symptoms returned within a year. He has had some relief but the pain is still unbearable at times.

Please keep my friend in your thoughts and please remember that, although our problems seem unbearable at times, there are plenty of other people who struggle and suffer with their problems far more than we could ever imagine.

Peace

Fighting Addictions

Mornin'

I would like to briefly discuss addiction this morning. Most, if not all, people in this world suffer from some form of addiction. Whether it is drugs, alcohol, gambling, shopping, or any of the other limitless ways addiction can manifest itself in the lives of human beings, addiction is a reality we simply cannot avoid forever.Some addictions seem to be harmless while others take individuals to a life of dereliction, jails, institutions, and quite possibly death.

At the core of all addictions seems to be a propensity for the victims of addiction to avoid self. They seem to be unwilling and almost incapable at facing the very issues that keep them caught up in their addictive cycle. They are usually the last one's to realize that what they are engaged in is unhealthy in some way. It is usually when their addiction paints them in a corner with no other alternatives but to face their issues do folks get better.

Addiction has another component that is usually present in all forms of it. It is called self-centered fear; fear which has at its center the individual and their anxious and worrisome thoughts about self. Their every waking moment seems to be about themselves and how they can do things to avoid losing control of themselves and their environment. They are wounded and try desperately to hide from the issues that threaten the subconscious beliefs that keep them in a state of insecurity, depression, resentment, and many more emotions tied to the various diseases of addiction.

The addict seems to be cold and calculating in their pursuit of self. They may seem to be unfazed by what they do to fulfill their selfish desires. It is important to remember that there is a human being at the core of all this activity and, this being the case, most addicts tend to also feel the effects of what they do. In fact, the reason why they engage more in the activities that created the problem in the beginning is to alleviate the pain of having to face the consequences of their actions. There is nothing personal about how an addict behaves. It may seem so. However, the last thing an addict is concerned about is deliberately damaging the relationships with the people who love him. He simply does what he needs to do to fill the ever increasing void in his soul. He most definitely feels the feelings when he comes down from the drugs or loses the elation and rush a shopping spree provides.

Every form of addiction has its devastating qualities. Some seem to be worse than others but are all damaging to varying degrees. The important thing to remember if you do, in fact, suffer from some form of addiction is that help is available. Significant others like family need to also remember the concept of tough love. It is okay to say no to the addict without feeling guilty for doing so. If you look at how you handle the addict from the standpoint of saving their life, the footwork seems to be a little easier.

Peace

Dealing with Different Personalities

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People with differing personalities used to baffle me. I often wondered why all of us were not more alike than what we are. Wouldn't the world run more smoothly if we were all good people and acted the same? No! I believe we are all different for at least a couple of reasons.

First, I think we are all different so we have a platform from which we can all learn something new or be reminded of something we are doing well or should be doing each and every day. Just as we can learn from the mistakes of others, so we can extract healthy techniques ad strategies that we can use to accentuate the good we already possess.

Secondly, wouldn't life be boring if we only experienced the same type of individuals each day? I think life would get boring quickly. The differing personalities and features of each and every human on the face of the earth provide a special kind of uniqueness matched by nothing else in the world.

People's talents also add to the spice of life. Without ingenuity, our world would certainly be void of all the fascinating inventions calved out of the Great Spirit. There are people more intelligent than other but not necessarily more creative. The person afflicted with a disfiguring disease and the one who is a model for a popular fashion magazine are both creative in their own right. In fact, the disfigured person may have a far better personality than the one wooing people with his/her stunning looks and figure. We just never know what kind of talents other have to offer unless we reach out and learn more about individuals.

Thirdly, I believe we are all different because we hold a unique spot in making other people's lives more liveable. We are hope to others even if we are caught up in a seemingly hopeless dilemma called addiction or some other malady. Where others draw hope from us they may lose the hope that they value so much when dealing with others. Life is a constant game of give and take and those who take and never receive are usually the ones who are least happy. It is the people who try to learn from others and themselves on a daily basis and give back to the less fortunate when they can that seem to be the happiest.

Finally, I believe we are all unique because it keeps us dependent on others for the things and talents we don't have. For example, I am not a mechanic. Sure, I used to be able to give an older vehicle a tune up and can still change the oil in a car. I can even do several other maintenance tasks on a vehicle. I do not, however, work on the engine, transmission, exhaust, and many other components on my car simply because I know nothing about them. The proper tools required to work at those levels are not in my possession anyway. So what do I do? I take my car to a mechanic so he can work on it. Now, if someone needed to either get help and support for themselves or a significant other concerning addiction and recovery, I am qualified to provide the proper information to help them deal with these issues. Simply put, a man/woman has got to know his limitations.

Peace

Fulfilling the Dream

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Ever dreamed of doing something in your life only to have it placed on hold as a direct result of something you or someone else did? Well, let me tell you, there is nothing sweeter than being able to engage in the work to realize the dream after quite some time of only thinking about it. There is something very special and rewarding if we can survive all the doubt and other negativity that happens along the way and come through the other side ready to fulfill those dreams.

Be it drug or alcohol addiction, an abusive and controlling relationship, our inner voice that tells us that we are not good enough, or a plethora of other self-defeating thoughts that hold us back, there is a way up and a way out if we maintain hope and faith that the situations that we find ourselves in will someday dissolve. When this happens - and it will if we persist - we will finally be engaged in a world in which we feel a part of rather than apart from.

This moment is the moment everybody wants to arrive at but not everybody has the courage and resolve to get there. There are those who learn the path to success earlier in life than others. Typically, many of those folks breeze past the important lessons in life that pertain to maintaining happiness within and spend the bulk of their life unhappy and empty despite all the "things" they have set in place around them.

When living life settles and the dust clears, the people who enjoy life the most are those who learn the lessons in life that facilitate the building up of character and self-esteem rather than tearing it down. It is certainly okay to have many toys and equally okay to have very little. My interest lies in knowing that more people learn to truly enjoy life in healthy ways. It takes a inside job to realize something so important and special. Trust me when I tell you, I have certainly been on both sides of the fence and prefer this side over the other.

Listen to your voice within - otherwise known as your conscience - and follow its commands. If it tells you that you are in the wrong job despite the copious amounts of money you make, maybe it's time to make a change. If you are being treated poorly and have become miserable as the result of the abuse, find another place to live and end the relationship. In fact, if you are unhappy with yourself and your life, it is probably time to look within to find the cause of your dilemma. When you do find the cause and the solution becomes evident, you are more than halfway there to a peaceful, happy life. There will be plenty of hard work along the way but at least it will pave the way to a good life and not be snuffed out by negativity. Stop running from the issues that keep your spirit pinned down. Have an awesome day!

Peace

Difficult People

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How do you act when faced with difficult people? You know, the really cocky and selfish people that are more prevalent today then they were when I was a kid (70's). I have a really awesome way to deal with them. First, find an exit strategy from the situation. Then, honestly accept the person/situation for exactly what it is. Finally, do not judge or put down the other person(s) for how they acted. Oftentimes, there are patterns of behavior in individuals that are deeply engrained for very specific reasons. Maybe they are cocky and need to always get in the last word because they did not feel like they were provided enough attention or heard enough throughout their life. They can also be fortifying a poor self image or insecurity stemming from a myriad of issues.

If there is no exit strategy and you must perhaps work with an individual in a confined space or any other situation, be nice. Killing someone with kindness will stymie them more than anything else. I have learned that there is nothing more effective in combating difficult people than to just respect them and be nice to them. In all my years of dealing with a variety of people, it seems the action that paralyzes them the most is kindness. It is almost as if kindness is the great leveler. There have been those folks who I met that are just inherently nasty, cold, and calculated. They don't even respond to kindness. These folks are not bad people either. They seemed to be so lost in negativity from working overtime to build defenses to keep the world out that it becomes a lifestyle. Their chances are less than most.

The best way for me to act during my daily travels is to get centered in the morning with some quiet time where I meditate and contemplate (usually with a cup of Joe lol) what lays ahead that day. I then fire up my computer and begin my computing tasks. It usually involves writing in my blog as well as working on other projects I have been working on for some time. Then I may do some chores before heading out for the day to face life on life's terms. During my day, I will invariably have to draw from the reserves I created through my meditation and blogging. I also use many techniques to handle my day that I have learned from all the people I have crossed paths with during my short time on this earth. My days usually turn out well provided I pay attention to the cues my environment and the people in it give me. It is only when I fail to listen to that voice within my soul that I have trouble living in the world as I know it.

Peace

Gratitude

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I would just like to take some time this morning to express my gratitude for what the Great Spirit has bestowed on my life. I have a wonderful mother, father, sister, and a few brothers who add goodness to my life on a daily basis. I also have several brothers with whom I am not close with but respect deeply. I am certainly grateful to have them as family. I am also grateful for the opportunity to open my eyes each morning and take another breath of life. No matter what the day brings, I try to remain grateful for having another day to live. I may not always have a grateful mindset but gratitude is such a nice mindset to come back to time and time again. It seems as though the longer I am on this earth, the closer the moments of deep gratitude get to each other.

Gratitude for the problems I face may seem like an oxymoron but it will make sense after a brief explanation. Without struggles, there would be no way to sharpen my tools with which I face life on a daily basis. The good days that consist of me being happy, joyous and free are only made possible by fighting in the trenches during those days that try me. Conversely, getting through the tough days are made possible by the hope that, in doing the work to get through the difficult times, I will have the goods times to help heal my wounds. The more I contemplate the Great Spirit and how the world fits together, the more I realize how important all the components are. Don't get me wrong, I, like most people, would rather not see so much violence and hardship in the world. This, too, is necessary in the grand scheme of things. I have a choice as to whether or not I participate in negativity.

I am grateful for all the relationships I have the the good looks and mind I inherited from my parents. I am also grateful to have a relationship with a higher power and to impart what the Great Spirit teaches me onto others at the appropriate time. The few materialistic things I posses give me a sense of gratitude as well. I have much to be grateful for. My list goes on and on and I hope you take the time to sit down and type one up. It really helps put things in perspective; especially during difficult times. Finally, I am grateful to have the opportunity to share a little piece of myself with all of you on a daily basis. There is nothing more rewarding than knowing I help at least one person on a daily basis.

Peace

Courage

Mornin'

Nice sunrise, huh? I thought I might add a little to all of you who wake to dreary, cloudy days. Never let this deter you from enjoying your day and the people you meet during this day.

I wanted to reveal some of my thoughts about courage with you in hopes of sparking comments about the subject. Webster defines courage as the ability to do something you know is difficult or dangerous. I believe any of us can conquer challenges outside ourselves easier than we can those that dwell within the confines of our minds and souls. I share this thought with you after experiencing this first hand and discussing the issue with many other human beings. I would much rather sail the open ocean (fear of capsizing and drowning or getting eaten by sharks) than reveal intimate details about my personality or belief system to anyone. I show more courage, I think, when I share myself with another human being. I also find it easier to play an intense game of Rugby (back in the day) than discuss my weaknesses with another man.

I believe that conquering our physical world is more easily handled than conquering issues that are spiritual, emotional, and psychological in nature simply because they typically do not involve a focused look at our core beliefs and values. We simply do not have to expose ourselves fully in the physical world as we do in the more important spiritual, emotional, and psychological realms. Sure, it takes a special individual to rise above their fears in hopes of conquering certain challenges that they encounter during daily life. What helps with these challenges is having more courage regarding the spiritual, emotional, and psychological. I believe all four need to be working like a well-oiled machine in order to provide us with the proper tools we need for success in anything we do.

There are many things that may frighten us each day. The only way through the fears we face is going through them. The smartest way to go through them is to be smart about how we approach them. Facing fears educated and prepared to move through them is one thing. It is quite another to have the bull in the china shop approach to these sometimes life-changing challenges. Sometimes the answer is to walk in the opposite direction of a situation that makes us fearful. This can be life-changing since sometimes our fears force us to make decisions that preserve our lives. For example, I would not befriend someone who engages in ingesting mind-altering chemicals for fear of getting involved myself. This is smart to not get involved and my fears directed me to make a smart, well thought out decision about my life. On the other hand, take for example another relationship opportunity. If I met someone who seemed to be uplifting and would make a wonderful addition to my life, I may experience fear of intimacy. Acknowledging this fear but opting to walk towards and through my fear would probably pay off and be good for me. It would not only allow me to get once step closer to conquering my fears about intimacy, but also help me deal with life of life's terms better.

I could go on and on about courage. I believe I have touched on the important components and given a few good examples of courageousness. My hope is that all of you look deep withing yourself and draw from the courage that is within. It is a gift given to us by the Great Spirit and using it only strengthens it. Have a wonderful day!!!!!!!!

Peace

Clearing My Mind

Mornin'

This, my friends, has been a momentous task for me but one I have seen great progress with. Don't get me wrong, meditation provides rewards every time I engage in it. The results of meditation are directly proportional to the effort I put in gaining control of my mind through my thoughts.

There are a myriad of techniques for meditation; many schools of thought and names attached to them. I like to keep it simple by sitting still, closing my eyes, and letting my brain work without intervention. An important thing to note here is that, as the thoughts enter my mind, I let them "pass through" without struggling with them. Just simply acknowledge your thoughts and let them go. Over time, the flow of troubling, often confusing and bizarre thoughts will ebb more and more and that is the moment I inject thoughts that affirm my well-being and relationship to the world around me. They may be thoughts of who I am or how I should deal with certain people and situations who I will confront today. I always reserve a special place in my soul, asking for awareness regarding those individuals who will support me on my journey and the strength to support others on theirs.

I usually end my meditation by finishing my cup of coffee I have been sipping throughout my exercise. I don't believe that I have to assume a certain position or follow certain rituals that have been passed down through generations of gurus and swamis. Like recovery from any type of addiction, this experience needs to be personalized. Your relationship with the Great Spirit is yours. Call him/her whatever you'd like and commune with that Higher Power however you see fit. This is your journey and therefore needs to be custom tailored so you can maximize the benefit of engaging in this ritual. You may sit cross-legged on the floor with no music playing or on the sofa sipping a cup of coffee with relaxation music playing softly in the background. I suggest no music since I believe that any type of outside noise can make following your thoughts more challenging. Everybody's mind and soul works a little differently so have at it.

In closing, I would like to say that you can expect your mind to not only quiet during your meditative experience, but also provide you solutions to your everyday challenges. Once you try this, your life will change drastically over time. You will no longer be uptight and stressed out like you once were. Those difficult folks who used to pluck your last nerve will suddenly be innocuous. I guarantee that, if you remain quiet after processing your thoughts during this process, you will be given all the solutions you need to live a happy and fulfilled life.

Peace

Just What I Need

Mornin'

The cup of Joe is certainly just what I, like millions of Americans and humans around the world, need each morning (and sometimes throughout the day). But this is not what I need to make me a person who lives life on the spiritual plain. This job is reserved for the creative source that combines all my life experience to create a human being who can live life on life's terms without needing to control, manipulate, etc. anybody else to get what I want out of life.

My life today does not consist of using my character defects to create a life with self-center components at its core. Through my trials and tribulations, mistakes and successes, failures and triumphs, I have discovered that my success in life is simply contingent upon how I treat others and myself. If i can go to bed at night knowing that I was good to myself and all those I came in contact with for that day, my day has been successful. When I have not accomplished this, I must get up the next day and do it all over, making amends where I need to make them. The interesting thing about my quest to treat myself and others respectfully and nicely throughout the day is the impossibility with perfecting this ritual.

Being human excludes me from the realm of perfection. Therefore, I must keep it in my mind that I can only strive for this perfection and accept that progress is good on a daily basis. The prize for me is seeing the relationships in my life transform into something I could have only dreamed of just a few years ago. I really do enjoy the journey on a daily basis. It is exciting for me to rise in the morning and greet each day (sometimes it is difficult getting out from underneath the covers during the frigid winter mornings).

I hope this day brings positive change for you; that your relationships transform into healthier, happier gifts. If you struggle in any particular relationship, try thinking "How can I make this person's day just a little bit better?" It may involve words of kindness, or deeds to help make the other person's road less bumpy today. Whatever you decide to do, build your relationship from here on out on the foundation of love. The Great Spoiler works overtime to destroy us and our relationships. We are social beings and one of the best ways to bring down the human race is to fracture relationships. It occurs everyday here in America and throughout the world. Is this how wars begin? What about murder and other violent crimes? The core of all crime is always one of the seven deadly sins.

To affect change in the world, you must begin by changing relations with the people you contact daily. Whether your wife, significant other, child, friend, or neighbor, these relationships are the grass roots of change globally. I'm just saying.

Peace

Fewer Difficult Days?

Mornin'

I was quietly contemplating my day ahead and some of my life this morning when a thought came to me concerning my life as it is today. I don't have too many materialistic distractions to cloud my connection to the Great Spirit and therefore find it easier than probably most to have basically a constant connection with the this Spirit.

That's neither here nor there. The important thing I want to impart on all of you is my discovery that I struggle  with people, principalities, and situations far less than even just a few months ago. After 46 years swimming against the current, I am finally internalizing what the old folks used to exude throughout my whole life. There was a certain peace and serenity about them that I wanted badly yet refused to investigate why they felt the way they did and how did they accomplish such a daunting task. Instead of asking them what they did to be in the mental and emotional state they were in, I, like many others, thought I had all the answers and could figure it all out.

I spent all my life turning over rocks in search of the magical component to life. After many years I realized that the answer to my dilemma was with me the whole time. What the older, wiser folks had was nothing more than wisdom from their and others' experiences in life. Like them, it was only when I had gone through my experiences in life did I gain the wisdom those folks had. Although I don't consider myself very wise, I do feel the peace and serenity that comes to me in my daily life stems from the wisdom of having lived half my life.

The beauty of discovering this at, the Great Spirit willing, the halfway point in my life gives me much hope that the latter days of my existence will be less bumpy than the previous ones. I get excited daily to wake up and live my little humble existence. I have a window of time when I will be off work and can work on projects that interest me. I love to write and continue to do so. Trying my hands at website design has always been a goal of mine as well. My hope is that anyone who reads this blog relates to some of its contents and can move to a better place within themselves and the world in which we live.

Peace

Agape Love

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Agape love - selfless love of one person for another without sexual implications (especially love that is spiritual in nature). - www.thefreedictionary.com/agape+love‎

I am sure you are all aware of the love you extend to you spouse, child, friend, parent, and even your higher power. This usually includes varying degrees of agape love. What often goes overlooked but is the most difficult yet crucial aspects of a complete spiritual life is the love of an enemy or someone who simply does not view life the way you do.

There is an abundance of reasons why we think we should not like someone. Is it something they said or did to us that keeps the poison of resentment surging through our veins. Or is it just that they seem to be different in so many ways? It could be a physical, psychological, or emotional difference. Whatever reasons you give for shutting someone out or bickering with them every chance you get, there simply is no reason to entertain the concept of "contempt prior to investigation".

The only way to truly get to know another individual and find out what really makes them tick is to transcend the obstacle of fear. Whether it be the fear or rejection or retribution, this obstacle must be overcome if we are to know the real beauty that resides in every human being.

Each person, no matter how sinister their thoughts and actions are, has a unique place or "soft spot" in their soul which beauty resides. This place is much more difficult to see and accept in the individual who prides themselves on their murderous rampages or bullying others to act a certain way. I understand this. In order to forgive individuals of this sort and even begin to uncover the beauty in their souls, we must first start with other less intense situations that we find ourselves in with other people.

As with anything else we try to master in life, we need to begin with the basics and work our way up to the worst of the worst. Remember, all this begins and ends with a commitment to put our selfish desires aside so we can do the work that is oftentimes far more important than our wants. This is a need if ever we want to exude the love we see in the people that have gone before us.

In my experience with this putting aside self to try to understand and love those who I never thought I could love, other people seemed to improve. What really happened was that my attitude and outlook changed but the only physical evidence was in my interactions with other people. Along with increased compatibility in my improved relations with others, I lost a lot of the feelings that I was apart from instead of apart of a wide swath of individuals.

My increased love and interaction with folks I would not typically "hang out with" has added much positive energy to my daily routine. I enjoy other people's company more because I understand them better. I don't even have to understand them these days to love them in an agape kind of way. Agape love teaches me to love another individual unconditionally. Just as I need others to accept me for exactly who I am, so do I need to accept them for who they are. Love is such a highly protected concept. Too many people are unwilling to freely give it to others.

There are certainly degrees of love we can give to one another. The love you give your child, spouse, or parent may not seem to be the same kind you give a emotionally challenged person on the bus or in the grocery store. The fact remains that love takes on many forms but the core concept of love never changes. It is a strong or constant affection for a person. The only things that stand in our way of truly expressing our love for all people is our pride, ego, and our agenda. Take time to open your heart to the agape love that transcends all other human emotion.

Peace

How dependent are you?

 Mornin'

Think, for a moment, about just how dependent you are on technology. I took this issue for granted until I was recently a victim of malware or a computer virus. Let me tell ya, those little boogers can really reap havoc not only on computers, but also the operators. I never realized the significance of computers in my life and the lives of all those around me until my computer got a virus. I could not help but think of the catastrophic effects of major problems with the more powerful computers that basically control daily activity in society today. 

Well, I was extremely grateful to know that we have plenty of techies in this world who know how to rectify countless computer issues. Granted, there are some viruses and other problems that completely destroy computers and cause millions of dollars in damages. Fortunately, the technician I contacted seemed to be able to fix the issue I had on my laptop and I am once again navigating through cyber space. 

I must say that I may have been guilty of initiating the attack. I was careless in opening unfamiliar files like music and visiting websites that were probably not safe. The lesson I learned is to cherish my computer. It is one of the most important assets I have and it needs to be kept safe. Caution needs to be my top priority when operating this asset. Think before you "click".

Peace

When I get angry...

Mornin'

When I used to get angry, I would shut people out and "show them". There have even been times when I would do things to "get back at them". They usually got back at me. For the longest time, I could never figure out why I ended up hurting more than others and for longer periods of time as a direct result of how I handled a situation. When I even think about getting back at someone or wishing they would "get theirs", I have already shot myself in the foot before I even get out of the gate.

This best solution I have found for this problem is to take some time to assess a situation before I jump into action. I realize this is tough and may seem nearly impossible in situations involving intense feelings and difficult issues. It is possible and you can do it. For example, I had a monstrous issue in dealing with other people who were not "living up to my standards". I found myself always judging them and thinking I knew what they needed to do to "act right". After several years of frustration which boiled over into anger that manifested itself in various ways, I thought to myself: "How can I make this problem go away?"

The answer surely came and I was not too happy with the part I would have to play in it. Instead of judging others and thinking I knew what was wrong with them, I focused my attention on my track record. I realized that I had plenty of "issues" that needed my attention from the moment I opened my eyes in the morning until I lay my head on my pillow at night. In doing this, I also discovered that I had very little time to focus on other people's issues and needed to focus more on my own.

I can honestly say that I am a much happier and peaceful person as the result of addressing this issue. Sure, I still engage in old behaviors but I at least have that place I can go to to heal my emotions and broken spirit. Good luck on this if you attempt it.

Peace

Like an idiot?

Mornin'

Ever feel like an idiot when you attempt something new? Well, when it comes to my computer, I get this feeling often. I am in the beginning stages of a website design and I am not even close to being proficient at using the wordpress software. In fact, this is the first time I have used it. I feel so inadequate when I attempt most things that are technology based; especially when there are countless twenty-somethings who are old enough to be my children and seem to "get it". Despite my struggles, my love is in computers and technology. I really enjoy working on my computer after I get through all the feelings of inadequacy.

I am what you might call a late bloomer when it comes to technology. In fact, I didn't even start a computer until I was in my thirties. Well, I am now forty-six and can honestly say that I have just scratched the surface with this whole computer thing. The fascinating thing about computers is that the more I learn about them, the more I realize what I have yet to learn. When all is said and done, I have a lot of fun with the little rascals. Using my computer helps me keep my brain active. It seems I learn something new everyday when either I explore the internet and many types of software myself or someone teaches me something they know.

Life is a huge learning curve so the best thing for me to do is to remember to not compare myself with anybody else and just learn at my pace. I can't expect to have a gorgeous website without learning how to build it properly. Everything takes time and the best things in life are certainly worth waiting for. This can translate to all areas of my life. I am here to learn and treat myself and others with respect and dignity.

Peace

Check this out! I thought it would be a cool, creative example of ingenuity.

The Simple Things

Mornin'

Like most everybody, I have a Facebook account. I read and see a lot through this form of social media and it always amazes me how the simple, candid moments caught on camera or in writing seem to move me the most. I am talking about babies' laughter, animals being themselves and performing often bizarre acts, short quotes, and many more. Whether it is through laughter or touching moments, I always seem to get my fuel for a sometimes demanding day or evening.

One thing in particular that has truly warmed my heart is rekindling or even beginning relationships. I think the platform of social media removes the insecurities from each person in the relationships so they can communicate more freely and real than they may have ever done before. I really enjoy the simple task of commenting something touching or funny about someones post. Simple actions like these really add spice to live.

Peace

What about those people making noises?

Mornin'

Everybody knows these people and may participate in this type of activity themselves. I'm talking about the impatient ones who grunt and groan in a valiant attempt at moving things along faster. Don't feed into it for, in doing so, you will fuel the fire more than come to a peaceful resolution. It's okay to not say a thing. Your peace of mind is far more precious than boosting your ego. As we practice this type of behavior more, it becomes easier to practice it. Most of the time, those impatient, angry individuals whispering expletives under their breath are not only unable to exercise patience and maintain control of their emotions, but also want more than anything to suck you right into their dysfunctional world. You are a far better and mature man/woman when you do not engage with these folks. Good luck.

Peace

P.S. Just so you know, I have been there and done that.

Just what are we fascinated with?

Mornin'

During my cup of Joe this morning a thought occurred to me. I thought how common it seems to be that humans are more fascinated by other animals and inanimate objects in a healthy way than they are with each other. We think other animals and things are so cute and adorable. We want to know all about them and may even take one in as a pet. We rarely judge these creatures and objects.

On the other hand, we do judge and speculate about how others should behave and may even think we are right in our judgements. In participating in this type of behavior we may not even realize that we are fascinated in a strange way with those around us. We just seem to follow our fascination in often bizarre ways.

How about if all of us started really being intrigue by our fellow humans? Why not ask ourselves in a non-judgmental way why people act in certain ways. Maybe we would like to know more about their nationality, or religion, or political views, or why they dress a certain way, or what type of education do they have, etc. There is a far more compassionate conduit through which we can discover the answers to what fascinates us. There is, in my opinion, nothing wrong with curiosity about others. In fact, discovering the answers to our curiousness about others would probably draw us closer to one another in more compassionate ways. Where we cross the line into unhealthy patterns of thinking is when we unleash the beast of habitual judgment.

Jealousy, envy, resentment, and a plethora of other negative emotions are poison to our communities. Don't you think we should view life more as an educational experience rather than a competition?

Peace

What about the dream?

Mornin'

I wanted to discuss briefly the importance of refusing to let anyone or anything thwart our progress towards realizing our goals and dreams. I have personally let a myriad of issues get in the way of my dreams on many occasions. Sure, it was sad to diverge from these dreams and there were many times I was unsure as to whether or not I would ever realize some of them.

The interesting thing about dreams and goals is that, no matter what we allow to get in the way of these important issues, we can always dream and set goals again. They may or may not be the same goals as before. The concept I am focusing on is the certainty that no one, absolutely no one or nothing, can extinguish your goals permanently. It is solely up to us to set and achieve our goals. If something happens where our goals and dreams need to be put on hold for a variety of reasons, we can still get back on course and make them a reality.

I can tell you that, no matter how many times you fall or your dreams and aspirations become clouded, you can succeed at what it is you always dreamed of doing. I am living proof of this miraculous experience. Good luck!

Peace

Searching for Solutions

Mornin'

Isn't this awesome? I have had many teachers who have shown me where to look for the solutions to life's problems but left it up to my imagination as to what I would see and experience. Early in my life, there were many occasions in which my teachers showed me where to look for the solutions and I decided to look elsewhere. Those were the times in which the results were not favorable. As I have matured and realized what is most important in life, my mind has led me back to what the teachers were (and still are) trying to show me and I see what they intended for me to see. I hope this quote inspires all of you as you step forth into today.

Peace